ok, so i just had my daughter a few weeks ago...when i had my son, i randomly cried a couple times, but my husband had to go back to iraq, so i sucked it up and drove on. this time, tho, it seems like i'm crumbling. my son drives me nuts, and even when i try to spend time with him, he flat out refuses...he's very jealous, and thank goodness doesn't take it out on her. but he does take it out on me and it really frickin sucks. anyways, then there's my husbands nco's. they are absolutely the stupidest people i have ever met. they weren't going to let him go on leave after the first 10 days until i called up there and started making complaints against them. i realized toward the end of last week that i still wasn't emotionally ready for him to go back to work, so he asked for an extension. the commander said he would approve it, but his nco told him to sign back in...it's not like my husband could say no. well, he had said he would put in for another week of leave, then today decided that he wasn't going to. so wtf, now it feels like he's against me too...i just don't think i'm emotionally stable right now. don't get me wrong, i'm not having those suicidal thoughts, i'm just very weepy. i cry allllll the time, over the dumbest things. urgh, i feel better now that i've gotten that out of my system... sorry if it was all jumbled up, lol i'm tired and worn out...anywho... hope yall are having a good week! btw, does anyone go to the playgroup at the library? i'm thinking about taking my son so he can play off some of his energy during the day, but i'm not sure if a lot of people go or not...if you go and can give me a better idea of what all they do, that would be great. is it something that i'll be overwhelmed taking him and a newborn to? thanks!  

Oh Gurl, sorry to hear you are going through all that! I don't have any kids so I really don't know what it might be like but I have read about post-partum depression; one of my friends had it badly after giving birth to her son. Have you talked to your hubby about how you are feeling? How old is your son? Maybe he's too young to understand what is going on with you and the new baby in the house. It's normal that he's jealous because of the new baby; he's not the center of attention anymore and he might be acting up to get your attention, even in a bad way. Get out of the house, go for a walk with your kids, talk to someone; you might feel better. Don't let this bring you down! Remember your kids need you. p.s. Glad to hear you are not having "those" thoughts :D Hope you feel better 

Sorry it has been so tough and of course the Army does not help. They think we are all army strong when we cant always be. My first suggestion would be yes, talk to your husband if you have not already. He may or may not be able to stay home or maybe go some half days or something longer lunch or something. If not, then yeah talk to someone else. Postpartum depression can be debilitating. It is normal and can happen in your first second, third or fourth, but not necessarily in any order or with all of them either. Life's changes and different stressors can add to or take away from our natural coping mechanisms. I have not been to playgroup on post, I have twins almost 3 now and they are not the best acting children and am sometimes afraid to take them for fear they will be naughty(I know all kids are but seriously they would scream if I had to leave early and you would hear them all the way to the car). They are getting lots better lately and have really been thinking about going. I dont know much, but if you have been to the library it is in the first room on your left when you walk in. Soft inside type playground type stuff in there. Really looks like fun. You can always go to a Chaplain here on post or the Mental Health building for more help further than what we can offer in ideas. Hope it gets better!!! 

Hey mommy of 2, I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. I went through something like that with my second and Im not really sure how I got over it but it will take time and the support of your hubby. Although to us our sadness may seem obvious and we may assume our hubbies know but they dont there so oblivious to what goes around them you really have to make it clear and simple and let him know whats going on and how youve been feeling. I agree with sharon you shoul dgo to the chaplain. If they are not giving your hubby time off at his unit; one session with the chaplain and i guarantee the unit will have a different perspective on this situation and will give your hubby ample time to take care of his family. the chaplians can do miracles trust me. they are very family oriented and have a great influence over the unit's commander. basically if the chaplian says he nee dmore time at home for a while and they dont do it and something happens they can be held responsible for negligence and thats the type of stuff they think about and thats why they will be more prone to helping you guys out. I have a four year old and a 1 year old(that doesnt walk yet..) but i would be willing to go on play dates with you, or you can bring the kids here I have a play room with plenty of things to do I have train table, trains, kitchen, TV, just plenty of stuff and we can talk and hang out or I would be willing to meet you at the library so youc an whine down and relax and have some mommy time. I am even willing to babysit so you can have some you time if you wanted. I am a good person and I love kids and I will treat them like there my own. I think its important to have "me" time to maintain your sanity. If you want you can message me offline and see if we can come up with something that you think can help. Thats what were here for to stick together and help one another. I know if I needed the help someone out there would be willing to do the same for me.:-) you take care and keep your head up and stay strong. **sorry for any grammer mistakes I wrote this fast and I just woke up from a nap with my little one**